This technique involves re-writing your own life script and is useful to do if you feel deeply indignant about your childhood or a past event. Imagine how your life could have been had you had choice. Imagine what you would have chosen. This could be anything from a completely different family and circumstances, to just changing one or two things.

Changing the past

Think through your life to the present day changing the scenario to how your life would be now. Think what you would believe? Where would you live? What kind of people would you be close to? How would you treat yourself? Do this without judging or turning your scene into an unrealistic fantasy. What is useful here is to notice what would change and what would not. Good questions to ask are:

Would you love yourself more? If the answer is yes then do the "loving yourself" meditation .

Would you have some of the behaviours you have now? 

Would you have more confidence? 

Would you have things that you would want to achieve that you have not? It is important to list these so you can build on them later.

Do this technique with ease to love yourself. The outcome to this is always love.

Building the future

Here is an outline of a plan to build the future you would like to create for yourself. It might be easy to underestimate the amount of time and effort it could take to follow this plan through. These are suggestion to change your life to how you want it. In doing that you may need to make some changes in attitude first. A good therapist can help you with this, along with a support group, positive literature and guided meditations.

1. Think of all the things you would like to do in your life.

2. Think of what emotionally might be holding you back i.e. fear, shame, guilt, an over-riding feeling of  I can't or shouldn't.

3. What other reasons are stopping you from living the life you want? List them all.

 4. Assess on a scale of 1 to 10 how important it is that you do the things listed that you want to do?

5. Next list all the reasons why you would like to do the things you want.

6. Now list what might have to happen first in order for you to create your ideal. Do you need to return to education? Do you need to further release emotions linked to the past? Do you need to make an appointment with a good therapist? Do you need to let go of current relationships or destructive habits in order to move forward?

7. List the trade off of not doing what you want to do. Maybe you won't have to face painful memories? Or move away from an unloving relationship? Or take any risks to move out of your comfort zone.

8. Consider how disempowering yourself in this way could contribute to you staying feeling small or stuck.

9. Consider making a small move to help you towards your goals. The key to moving on from feeling stuck is always awareness followed by considered action.

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