*Healing touch

You may find it difficult to let yourself be touched if you have been physically or sexually abused.  Or you may find you mentally move out of your body when you are touched, sexually or otherwise.  You may be aware that being touched brings up strong feelings for you and you emotionally react in a way that is painful for you and perhaps bewildering for a lover.  This can be hard on a relationship, especially if physical or sexual expression is important to you or your partner.  If you feel your partner doesn't understand or you have got into an unhealthy pattern of wanting contact and then backing off, perhaps it is time to be honest with yourself about what you actually want.  You may need to do some deep healing work with a therapist before you can have the type of relationship that you would like. 

Massage, bodywork or Reichian bodywork can be good ways of bringing up very strong feeling to be looked at with the help of a skilled, qualified therapist.  An understanding therapist can help you work through feelings that arise when you are touched, whilst offering insight and emotional support.  Be aware that this type of emotional recovery may take some time and that there is no quick fix for facing fear.  However some people find NLP techniques and hypnosis useful too.  Often the main feeling that arises from being touched is fear.  It takes a lot of courage and patience to face your own fear, and it would be easier of course if it wasn't so scary, but that is the nature of fear!  The most important thing to remember is that the fear you are currently feeling has its basis in the past, especially if it is from childhood abuse.  Once you have mentally drawn a line under that past you can find ways of leaving it there and enjoy touch in the present.

 

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